The phrase “it takes a village” has proven true many times over in my life: my work, parenting, and family. Thus, it comes as no surprise that this bit of wisdom also holds true for weddings.
I got married the year after my first year of teaching. It was nice because the last day of school was exactly one month before my wedding, so I saved most wedding related tasks for that month before. From the start, I really valued being present and living in the moment as much as possible on my wedding day. I knew that it was pretty much inevitable that it would be a blur, but I wanted to soak up as much as possible! And after acknowledging that, I quickly realized also how much would need to happen on the wedding day that I couldn’t help with or be in charge of.
Enter: your village. I strongly believe that every bride needs a wedding day-of “person” or small village so that it’s not YOU making the call but someone else you’ve deemed worthy of making the call when something needs to get done or a decision needs to be made. In my case, I appointed my Aunt Dee to be my “person” and also had other aunts to help with tasks. I spent the weeks leading up to my wedding prepping them on everything so that way when the day came, I literally didn’t worry about anything! And in case you don’t have an amazing team of aunts willing to do these jobs for you, don’t forget you can honor a friend by deeming them your “personal attendant” who can help with some things, or you can hire a wedding planner whose job would be to would take care of #allthethings.
Above: Me with my “person,” Aunt Dee; along with some other aunts (her sisters!) that helped out!
So if you’re curious how I prepped my people, read on!
I spent a few days writing down every little task I could possibly think of. From bringing programs to the church to taking my dress bag from the bridal suite to the reception hall- I wrote down EVERYTHING. I walked through the entire day in my head, step by step, thinking of everything I needed at every location. Then I delegated every.single.task. I am lucky to have many aunts that were all itching for a job or two, so once I had everything set, I sent out a mass email telling them exactly what I’d need each person to do and when to do it. In case you’re wondering, I am Type A 😂
If you want to see juuusssttttt how Type A I am, I’m linking the exact email I sent them with their jobs for your comic relief this Wednesday. Yes, it is three typed pages… what can I say, I’m thorough 😂!
Me heading to Chicago from my Milwaukee apartment, complete with a PACKED car of wedding stuff!
- Delegate, delegate, delegate! Give people jobs, or hire someone who’s job is to get it all done
- Walk through your wedding day in your head. Write down everything you need as you go, and that will help you create a list of jobs associated with each thing.
- Your wedding day will be beautiful whether or not the centerpieces are arranged how you envisioned. The show will go on if the programs are accidentally forgotten in a hotel room. All you truly need is your fiance at the end of the day, so let that be the lens everything else is done through. ❤
Thanks for the recognition Christi Lou! I would do it again in a heartbeat and am so honored you asked for my help. It was so much fun and as you said I was part of the family village who helped because it does take a village for many things in life. Love and hugs, Aunt Dee